Modern music in church makes me feel like an outsider and/or as if they're trying to push the old people out of the church. Worse, it feels as if they're trying to push Jesus, tradition, respect/reverence, the Bible, God, and even the Pastor out of church.
If a church wants a less formal service and does away with the liturgy, but still retains minimum essential elements of the service and the hymns are still traditional, OK. But when essential elements are done away with, the music/conduct is disrespectful, Law and Gospel aren't present in the sermon, a "worship leader" usurps the Pastor's role as worship leader, the band/choir/etc. usurps the focal point of the cross and altar, I have a serious problem with it.
Minimum essential elements for weekly worship (Lutheran):
Invocation
Confession of sins and absolution/announcement of Grace
Bible readings (generally comprising OT, NT, and The Gospel)
Sermon
Confession of faith (Apostle's, Nicene, or Athanasian Creed)
Prayer, including The Lord's Prayer
Holy Communion, including consecration and distribution of the elements (some churches every week, others less often)
Benediction
Offering and offertory don't appear, as many churches no longer pass a plate/basket due to online giving, mail-in donations, and/or receptacle/basket near the door or back of the Sanctuary (partially due to covid)
Hymns don't appear, as not absolutely necessary, although a lot lost when omitted, and in some places, singing/music could attract attention of persecutors